Frequently Asked Questions about Skype Video Therapy Online
Do you do free sessions?
Ah, good, let's get that one out of the way first. Hell, NO!
And here's why. There are lots of sites all over the internet falling over themselves to give you free counselling. In fact, you can go from one to the other, to another, and get hours and hours of free therapy, covering the same ground over and over again, and I'm sure a lot of people do. Most of the time this approach gets you nowhere. There are several reasons why I don't work for free.
1.) My training in various therapy, mind and body disciplines, over the last 12 years has cost me something over £25,000.
2.) I've been in practice, and at this, for over 10 years. But neither of those are the real reason.
3.) The real reason is, I only work with people who have no choice but to succeed. Failure is not an option. The reason why I'm successful at face-to-face and online therapy, is not because of me, but because of YOU! That doesn't mean I cherrypick, far from it, no, my skill, if you like, is in finding leverage.
Must I be ill to request Skype therapy?
Not at all - anxiety, stress, anger and certain degrees of depression are not illnesses, even though you can get a variety of tablets for all of these conditions, but still we receive little education in how to deal with these problems in other ways, either at home, at school, or at work. We're often told to 'suck up and put up', as if that's a helpful guide in dealing with emotional illness, or even physical illness. You have to 'battle' through, and 'conquer' your problems, when doing battle is the one thing that is the most exhausting activity you could possibly undertake. Nah, you don't have to be ill, just in need. Not really the same, are they?
What sort of things can I discuss during my Skype session?
Anything! The range of issues or personal concerns that you can discuss during your Skype session is very broad. You may find some
ideas for discussion by clicking this link. If something is bothering you and you can't break the pattern, you may feel like starting here. Feelings of shock, disappointment or overwhelm can come from a current issue, or from any time in the past.
How much is this going to cost me?
You mean emotionally, or financially? There's no getting away from it, counselling of any kind can be a big commitment emotionally. But the rewards are a lifetime of freedom from the emotional turmoil that you have lived with thus far. I do my absolute utmost to make this as painless as possible for you, by providing a safe environment in which to express your ideas, anxiety and pain. You explore and discover hugely beneficial ways to heal your pain, solve your problems and create lasting change.
Now the other bit is really simple! I charge £30 for the first 30mins, or £50 for the first hour at 2 x 30mins. Subsequent to that initial outlay, the ongoing cost is £25 per 30mins, paid in advance. I will talk to you about discounts if you want to book and pay for multiple sessions in advance; email me about this first.
Sometimes I feel suicidal; will you still talk to me?
Of course. Most people don't feel suicidal all the time, but maybe for a brief moment during a time of crisis, and again, only during a brief crescendo of pain at some point in that crisis. If we can solve the crisis beforehand, you may never have those feelings again. The only proviso I insist on is that if you have suicidal thoughts, you must agree to have someone available close by as a backup. They do not have to be with you, in the same room, during your session, but you must be able to contact them easily, which means they need to be closeby.
What about body language? I thought this helped you understand how someone is feeling.
Absolutely right! It is definitely more difficult to see if someone is tapping their feet, or how they are sitting or holding themselves. But in counterence to that, working on the telephone, or by email, is impossible to see even the slightest facial twitch. So what this does is develop your intuition to a very fine degree over time.
Most Skype video work is only a head shot, agreed, but with broadband speeds now, the video feed is usually adequate to see facial expressions, certain degrees of eye movements, slumped shoulders or a general emotional state. In addition, voice inflection and tone are a big help in ascertaining how someone is feeling. As for hand gestures and arm movements, we are doing EFT, which is tapping on the head, face and upper body, so are easily seen on camera. The purists all hold up their hands in disbelief and try to trash this kind of thing, but there will always be dissenters for any new medium; so they must get on with it and continue to refuse any change that threatens their established traditions and income stream. You, on the other hand, can give it a try and make up your own mind.
How do I get started?
If you want to make a general enquiry, you can from any page on this site. If you've read enough and want to go ahead, please fill out the application form and send it to me. I will respond to you so that we can set up a time and you can arrange payment of the fee. Generally calls are 30mins per session, but the first call at 60mins is sometimes better initially. Patients with CFS (Chronic Fatique Syndrome), Adrenal Fatigue, or some other limiting illnesses, usually opt for the 30min appointments as these are less exhausting.