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How does anger show up in YOUR life? Who gets hurt when you are angry?
Physically, anger triggers the body’s ‘fight or flight’ response
Anger means I am usually fearful, excited and anxious at the same time
Anger causes the adrenal glands to flood the body with adrenaline and cortisol
Anger pushes blood away from the gut and towards the muscles affecting digestion
Anger causes your heart rate, blood pressure and respiration rate to increase
Anger causes your body temperature to rise; we often say 'my blood is boiling'
Your skin perspires, your mind feels sharp and focused and your eyesight improves
Emotionally, anger can make you feel incredibly guilty and ashamed afterward
Anger can mean partners live in fear of upsetting you
Anger means your children live in constant fear of doing the wrong thing
Anger can cost you your job
Anger can cost you your driving licence and your liberty
Some researchers think that chronic anger may be more dangerous than smoking and obesity
Is anger really worth damaging your heart, arteries, kidneys, stomach lining and intestinal tract?
Anger is a known factor that can contribute to early death
Do you know this famous saying? - Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one guaranteed to get burned ~ Buddha
How to gain emotional mastery over anger using EFT!
Anger is an emotion that is commonly misunderstood. Anger can be incredibly destructive to our lives and the lives of those around us when it is expressed inappropriately. At the same time, repressed anger can be equally destructive, in an emotional, physical and health sense. Have you ever felt powerless in the face of anger?
For most people, anger is a destructive force. Most people in business, especially in management, often show their anger when their targets aren't being met, or when their superiors are breathing down their neck, demanding to know why the targets they set aren't being met. The work place is geared up to make everyone jump on everyone else down the chain. Then they send you on a poxy teambuilding awayday to make it all okay.
Sports men and women often seem to be angry when they compete. With HD TV it is clear to see the expressions on athletes faces as they try their best to perform at their best. But that expression is NOT anger. Very few athletes can use their anger as a motivator with which to improve their performance. Anger in a sportspersons mind is generally so destructive to their performance that they will do anything to eliminate it from their emotional choices.
So if that is true for them, how much more important must it be for you and me, when we are dealing with our families, friends, work collegues, our work, hobbies, and in our interactions with other people? Why is it that so many people have anger as their default setting? They seem to be angry all the time, like they have no other choices.
My own view is that angry people are addicted to anger, or have become addicted to the feelings that being angry gives them. We become addicted to the chemicals of anger at a cellular level, and to the action of anger at a habitual level.
Don't get me wrong! Anger has it's place. If someone came and slashed my tyres, I'd be angry that they should do that. Perhaps rightly so. But will anger fix it? Is anger what caused the incident in the first place? If I direct anger at persons unknown, who is getting hurt? You're right, ME! Violence, anger and rage are on the increase, and finding the help you need to bypass this often inappropriate and distressing behaviour will show up the differences between healthy and destructive anger.
Learn how to effectively control your own anger through communication
Learn simple, but effective relaxation techniques that will bring your intense anger down to nothing more than slight annoyance in seconds. It is physically impossible to be angry and relaxed at the same time, just as it is physically impossible to be depressed and happy at the same time. Learn why depression is so closely allied to anger, and how the self plays a major part in both.
Learn how to effectively manage other people's anger
Approaching or crossing somebody who is angry can be a daunting prospect. You never know how much danger you will be faced with. But if you are the partner of an angry person, you will rightly want to help them as much as possible. By triggering the Aggression Inhibition Reflex (AIR) you will help them calm down in the shortest time. But to do that effectively you need to have the right body language, the right volume and tempo of voice, the right words, and the right state of mind, and the right timing, to bring them out of their state of emotional arousal.
What is the impact of anger on the body?
The impact that rage and anger can have on the body ranges from early strokes, heart attack and sudden death, all of which, of course, are worst case scenario. Or, it can slowly eat away at your insides over time, and produce things like, blood sugar imbalance, a reduction in bone density, immune response suppression, thyroid function suppression, an increase in blood pressure and a decrease in memory and brain function, it can compromise lung function and your ability to oxygenate the blood efficiently, as well as increasing muscle and tissue tension throughout the body, which impedes circulation, thus promoting an inflammatory response. If that's not enough, the same tension can lead to headaches, migraines, insomnia, weight gain, acid reflux and stomach ulcers.
Exploring your reasons for your anger will give you some new insights into what is possible for you. The fact is, some people are very comfortable with their anger, it has even become a way of life for them. What would be the advantages of looking at this and addressing the issue? Because it really would make a difference in your life, and the life of everyone around you. Anger erodes the trust others have in you, it destroys your self-esteem, your self-confidence, your self-worth, which can lead to a multitude of other health problems, or the loss of an important relationship.
If you can relate to any of this and you have frequent bouts of anger, then please use the email address below.
“People who fly into a rage always make a bad landing” ~ Will Rogers