Find Emotional Freedom from Abandonment. Skype Video Counselling and Therapy for Abandonment
Events that happened in your childhood, and the way that you internalize their meaning, have a massive impact on the person you are today. Many of us have good reason to be haunted by childhood memories and it is all too easy to be left feeling like a victim. One of those events that can have profound consequences for our emotions in later life, is the traumatic event of abandonment.
Abandonment is probably one of the most painful experiences that anyone will ever have to go through. And, those feelings of abandonment have been affecting just about every decision, every thought, every choice you have made thus far in your life, from the job you have, to the way you are with your children, to the relationship you have with your partner and the beliefs you hold.
Abandonment is something that happens in the past. The pain you feel now, is because of something that has happened to you before. Now, you may not be able to change the past, but you do have the power to change how you feel about being abandoned, and how that tragedy impacts you today. You do have the power to learn from your past, both near and far, and take steps to change the emotional impact moving forward, free, without fear and without pain.
Anyone can be haunted by feelings of abandonment; it is not age or gender specific. Because it can become a big influence in our lives at any time, from childhood to old age, the way we react to abandonment can be very different. For example, in the case of children, parents can be physically present, but not emotionally present, they may become sick or preoccupied with work, or family issues, which means they're not there for you. For adults, relationships may become unstable and for older generations, where co-dependence was more encouraged than now, a partner losing the battle in a terminal illness may well be seen as abandonment.
Why do I need to deal with these issues of abandonment, why can't I just forget them?
Some people will tell me, it was only my parents arguing, I should have been old enough to understand when my mum left me, the abuse only happened once, it was my fault the foster parents hated me, it wasn't that bad really, I'm just over-reacting. The reality of abandonment is, IT IS THAT BAD, YOU WERE ONLY A CHILD!
This is what is having the profoundly negative impact on your adult life now. The way you have dealt with this up to now is having a big impact on your self-condifence, on your self-esteem, on your relationships, on your sex life, on how you feel about yourself and how you feel as a grown up.
So it is very important, because all that pain you felt as a child, never really leaves you, and its influence is far reaching. Isn't it possible that even the huge brick wall you have built around yourself so you won't get hurt, that impenetrable barrier that makes you keep your emotions in and your defences up, was an instinctive reaction to the hurt and the injustice of it all? You begin to realize that fear and insecurity have become the reality you live with day in and day out. It's very sad, frustrating and depressing.
But there is something you can do about it. These fears are brought into awareness, and resolved in a painfree and stressless way that helps you desensitize to the hurt, allowing you to react less strongly to them in the future. This can allow you to go on to develop and enjoy the satisfying relationships you've always yearned for, free from the pain, anxiety and suffering that have been typical until now. Your work life, your home life, your relationship life, your family life, your love life, your physical health, how your feel about your self, your body, your weight, your looks, are all areas where you will see growth, once you deal with the emotional pain that is acting like weed killer on your plans for self improvement and self empowerment.
Lastly, don't beat yourself up about being this way. It was probably not your fault in the first place, but rather something done to you at a vulnerable time in your life. This is what triggered the survival response and allowed the pain of abandonment to take a hold over you in the first place. Take the time now to deal with it and find the peace that you deserve, find the peace that you have searched for your entire life! That's what constructive therapy can do for you! There is usually a reason why the pain of abandonment shows up in later life, and I hope you have found this information useful and feel encouraged to look for a solution. The email address is below.